The energy of your home when no one is watching: What it reveals about you
There is a version of your home that everyone one sees, and then there is a version that no one sees, let’s unpack what this reveals about how you feel about yourself truly.
Ok so, tell me if this sounds like you. When you know people are coming over to your house, do you franticly start cleaning and putting things away? Do you take this as a sign that you need to deep clean your home and do things that you have been putting off?
When no one is coming over, how do you feel about those things that need to be done? Do you ignore them and live with them? This can reveal a lot about your self worth and where the truth lives.
Your home reveals your baseline, not your best days
Anyone can clean their home for an hour before company and make it look beautiful and feel welcoming.
But what does your home look like:
After a long day?
A stressful week?
When no one is coming over?
That is your energetic baseline. There is no shame in it but, there can be awareness because your environment is either supporting you in those moments or amplifying them.
The ‘I’ll do it later’ energy
What it can look like:
Dishes in the sink
Laundry piled up on furniture
Clutter on counters
Dusty furniture
You are not lazy, you are likely carrying mental load or decision fatigue.
What you can do about it
Instead of forcing yourself to be productive, create soft systems.
A 10 minute nightly kitchen reset - this doesn’t have to mean you do all the dishes and clean every counter, but maybe you could do a few dishes so that when you come down in the morning, the pile of dishes is less stressful.
Give everything you own a ‘home’ so that putting things away becomes an easy decision.
Spend 15 minutes putting laundry away as soon as it’s done or, if it is other peoples laundry, have them do it.
The energy drop at night
I’m not sure why but i have found this to be true, clutter looks worse at night. This an lead to mental and visual stress that causes sleep issues and can actually make any other stress in your life seem bigger.
This is because when we are tired and ready to go to bed, we see the mess and then believe that we are lazy, undeserving, and unproductive. This can cause us to spiral about other situations.
From a Feng Shui perspective, this just means that your home isn’t transitioning with you and your energy maybe feeling stuck, or you are going through a stagnant period of life.
What you can do about it:
Use calm lighting in your evenings - this will help visually with the clutter.
On a day when you are free, take some time to deal with certain areas that cause you stress.
Donate or sell what you don’t need - create a calm space by letting things go.
The comfort but chaotic space
This is the home that is comfortable but chaotic. It is lived in but overwhelming, and cozy but not calming.
It can look like a cozy sofa, with piles of books around it, or a made bed with dirty laundry beside it.
What this reveals: That you have accepted where you are and you may not know how to create change or, you don’t have clarity around what you want so you are ok with staying where you are in life.
You may also have emotional attachment to the things you have, and have an avoidance of letting go.
What you can do about it:
Keep the cozy elements and deal with what is around them.
Remove things that you don’t have emotional attachment to first.
Create space around your bed or favorite chair for energy to flow and breathe.
With space comes clarity.
The spaces you avoid
We all have that one drawer filled with random things, or a room that stuff just get dumped in. All this means is that there is stagnant energy there.
My laundry room used to be our dumping room, according to the Bagua map, it was our love and relationship area, this was a time in my life that the relationships were just off. When we cleared that room and gave it a purpose, relationships strengthened and the relationships that weren’t serving us, fell away naturally.
The areas that we avoid are often the areas in the Bagua map that we are not prioritizing.
Avoided spaces = avoided energy.
What you can do about it:
Start small - change one thing in the room or sort through a few things in the junk drawer.
Take what you can out of the space and only put back what you need - if you can’t find a home for the rest of the stuff, donate it.
Clean the area as best as you can, then edit it. It will make the process easier.
Energy is everything ✨