Creating a home that feels like yours again
This is for you if you are navigating a difficult transition right now, maybe a loss, a career change, or a divorce. I got you ✨
This blog post is inspired by my clients this past week. The common theme for all of them was the end of a relationship (very cycle 9 energy).
One of the things i am so passionate about, is helping women rebuild and feel powerful again. Healing through home is such an amazing way to help you through big life changes.
If you are also going through a relationship change or something that has rocked your world, grab a drink and read this! ❤️
Why women are so powerful
If you are a woman, you must know how powerful you are, and if you don’t, i am going to tell you why you are.
Women are natural creators, we are so magical that we can literally create life within us.
We were born to create, not only humans but anything we want.
There is a reason why some women were called witches and burned at the stake by men, because they were threatened by the power inside us.
We also have the power to rebuild ourselves and come back ten times stronger after things like divorce (the break up glow up is real!) and other life changes that tried to break us.
There is quiet energy that circulates our home after a divorce or the end of a long relationship. Something that just feels of. The house is the same, the furniture hasn’t moved, the colors on the wall are still the same yet, everything feels different.
You are different, your home just hasn’t caught up yet and that is what is holding you in the past.
This isn’t about redecorating or keeping up with trends and aesthetics. This is about reclaiming your energy, your identity, and your sense of safety.
First, give yourself permission to change the energy
It may sound crazy but you are allowed now to want something different.
Homes absorb energy, memories, conversations, routines, and emotions. When a relationship ends, the space can feel empty even when it’s full of things, it can also feel unfamiliar. The energy is outdated.
Start by acknowledging what you want to change. Maybe your partner was strict on his rule of no eating on the couch, go eat on that couch! Give yourself permission to create new rules in an old place.
Clear without erasing your life
You don’t need to throw away everything or erase the past. Healing doesn’t mean going to the extreme.
Begin with removing items that feel emotionally charged:
Decor that they chose but you quietly hate.
Bedding that reminds you of them (if they didn’t take their pillow, throw it away)
Furniture arrangements built around their life habits.
Bathroom products they left behind.
Any clothes they left behind.
Reclaim every room
Go to each room and decide what you want to change. If it is a room they spent a lot of time in eg. the home office, what purpose could you give this room now that would make you happy?
How do you want to feel here?
What would make you happy to change about each room?
How can you make it more of you ?
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Rearrange before you replace
Before buying anything new, shift what you already have. This will instantly help you feel better as your mind is seeing your old home in a new way.
Move the bed, rearrange the living room, or even just move some art around.
Feng Shui teaches us that new layouts invite new energy. Symbolically, you are showing life that you are ready for change.
In times of change, i always suggest that my clients move 27 objects in their homes. It is like an energy reset.
What 27 represents:
Completion and renewal.
27 = 2+7 = 9.
In Feng Shui and numerology, 9 is the number of completion and new cycles.
Letting go to receive.
Moving 27 items signals to your subconscious, and your space, that you are ready to release stagnation.
Momentum and flow.
It breaks energetic circuits. This is helpful when things feel stuck.
Chi must move to grow.
Let your home reflect who you are now
You are not the same, your home is not the same. Everything has changed, yet things around you may feel the same.
Create a list of decor based on who you are now, and start to decorate your home using it.
Things to include:
Colors you love.
Art you want to see everyday.
Chairs you want to sit on daily.
Dishes you want to eat off of.
Bedsheets.
Candles and scents you want around your home.
Things to beautify your bathroom.
You may also want to create a mood board or use Pinterest to help you find out what you like.
Create rituals and routines that belong only to you
There is energy in our routines and daily habits.
We may have created routines around the way life used to be when you were in that partnership, but now you get to create new ones. There is excitement that, you get create excitement in it.
Create a solid morning routine that makes you happy.
Journaling, meditation, morning hydration rituals, working out, are all things you can include.
Create a relaxing night time routine that makes you feel so loved.
Plan out your week the way you want it to go.
Make meals that you love.
Plan solo dates or activities that you enjoy and do them weekly.
Meet friends that you didn’t spend enough time with when you were with your partner.
Life gets to be about you now ❤️
If you would like a consultation to help you, please reach out!
